The real reason you look at stuff that doesn't align with who you are

Yesterday it was a beautiful day here in Manchester so I took a walk down the canal and had a 1-1 catch-up call with a client over the phone. This client reminded me of myself a lot.

Just another normal guy who had fallen prey to a porn addiction from a young age. The tolerance cycle had naturally led to him watching sexual content which he wasn't proud of and didn't align with his true sexual tastes.

Over a number of years, his therapists had told him to use blockers, to explore his "sexual template", and had fed him the classic lie that is "relapse is part of recovery". Inevitably, he'd stayed stuck trying his best to manage and control an addiction for years and years. He had the same frustrating ups and downs that I'd also experienced for over 9 years.

He's now learned the full Beyond Compulsion™ method and has complete direction and clarity on how to overcome this problem. He's realised that the therapists had unintentionally made things worse and he's got every right to be pissed off at them.

They'd taken his money and had completely skirted around the real problem - compulsive desires.

They'd made the problem to do with his sexual desires and who he intrinsically was, instead of acknowledging the elephant in the room. The elephant being the wider societal problem of us all living in a f*cked up society where porn addiction is epidemic and people are getting hooked to something as addictive as a drug from the tender age of 12.

Of course, he ended up looking at progressively misaligned sexual content, that is just addiction doing what addiction does to people.

Fortunately, he's now received the right help, just like I did, and is absolutely thriving.

This week he's shared some great wins within our Beyond Compulsion Academy.

This client is no longer watching the stuff he used to. He isn't consuming any porn at all. Every time he thinks about it on any level, he goes straight to his 5-Fact script and takes the opportunity to rewire his brain. He knows that relapse is part of relapse and that if he looks, even once, he'll want to do it again and again and again because that's how addicted neural pathways work. He now understands that his problem was addiction and the tolerance cycle. It wasn't to do with him or his sexual tastes after all. He now knows it was not his fault and that it really was the methods that had been failing him.

And he has more confidence, self-trust and understanding through solving this problem correctly now than ever!

Your sexual desires are not the problem.

The lack of methods that change the neural pathways of compulsive desire is the problem.

We exist to change that.