In the past I would find it really hard to deal with a hangover. I'd feel so tired, uncomfortable and I'd have so much desire! This would result in me watching porn. I was in a porn addiction. I'd usually start rather innocently, scrolling on social media, or watching YouTube videos, but then what felt like the inevitable would happen - I'd seek sexual content and I'd relapse. Nowadays things are very different. Over the last couple of nights I've had a couple of drinks. One night was playing poker with my friends from football and then last night it was my friend Cat's party. But what happened? Well, I didn't actually have any problems with porn. This is because I've changed the brain maps that associate discomfort with watching porn. I did this using the Beyond Compulsion™ Method.
When I was hungover in the past I always wanted to watch porn. And because I had no idea how to really deal with that desire, I always did watch porn. At that point I had not been taught how to deal with the addicted part of the mind correctly. Fortunately, Mari Paulus came along and taught me how. So, because of this, I've been able to change my brain by repeatedly thinking through compulsive desire using a 5-fact script. Nowadays, if I'm ever feeling discomfort whether from a hangover or something else - I won't even want porn anymore as I've changed those brain maps. The alternative, conventional approach will be to take the helpless, temporary route of avoiding any possibility of discomfort in life. This inevitably leads to people feeling awful, disempowered, and ultimately ending up back at porn, no matter how hard they try to stop. I'm not saying that going out and drinking alcohol is necessarily a good idea., especially if it being done as a substitute for another compulsive behaviour. However, I like how I can now live my life with total spontaneity, never worried about relapsing. I can do what I want and feel empowered to make choices I am proud of, day in and day out.
And this for me is the real goal of "recovery", not just temporary abstinence through willpower. I trust myself completely and that is because I know how to deal with any compulsive desire correctly. If you'd like to learn the method Mari Paulus taught me, feel free to get in touch.