Changing how you think changes everything

Last night I was volunteering at the Samaritans, a charity which deliver emotional support to those considering ending their life.

At around 2:30am I spoke to a woman in her 50's who asked me "will I always feel this hopeless?" This woman couldn't see any way out of her current problems.

And so she was considering ending her life. People often feel hopeless when they continue to think in the same way they've always thought. This woman lived alone and had been going round in circles in her own mind, without ever receiving a fresh perspective on things. Hopelessness was essentially inevitable. One of the reasons I pay hundreds every month for coaching is to access new ideas, to be inspired, and shift the way I think so I can solve problems more effectively.

Sometimes all we need to do is take on a new way of thinking, and everything can begin to change. Hopelessness is common in addiction. It is in the addicted part of the mind's (APOTM) best interests for you to feel hopeless right now. Relapsing after telling yourself "I won't ever do this again" can compound the hopelessness. I did this hundreds of times. But, there is hope.

I underwent a complete mental shift by getting support from Mari Paulus to finally escape relapsing and take back control from the APOTM. If I can do it, and our clients can do it, then you can too. Just never give up on yourself.